Relationships can be difficult to navigate. The ending of one like a marriage can be even more so.
While divorce can be contentious, it does not have to be. Whether it is for the sake of your children or for your own sake, if you want an amicable parting, there are certain things you and your soon-to-be-ex-spouse can do to ease the process.
1. Agree to avoid the blame game
Blame is a major source of conflict. Throwing it around only feeds anger and argument. If you have children, it may also hurt and confuse them, adding to the potential consequences they are already at risk of suffering. By agreeing not to assign blame for the divorce, you help to reduce aggression and fighting.
2. Be respectful
Show kindness and respect not just to your former partner and children, but to yourself as well. Take care of your mind and your body. Too often, these can fall to the wayside during a divorce. By maintaining your overall well-being, you allow yourself to be calmer and more rational, which in turn may help the other party to behave in a similar manner.
3. Settle out of court
Litigation is not a requirement for divorce. Mediation is a good solution for a peaceful divorce without involving a judge. It also costs less and may be faster than going through the courts. A trained mediator knows how to reduce conflict and help achieve an agreement that pleases both sides.
You can have an amicable divorce. By working peacefully with your soon-to-be former spouse, you can greatly decrease tension.